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.@habitatdetroit 2014 #buildup & being apart of #Detroit…#backchannel #earlyrisers #firestory

Two years ago I can say I would have never imagined my house burning to the ground in 8 minutes and losing everything. 

In my world, where my middle name is Murphy’s Law & I live in Detroit, I was at a point in my life - a sort of ceiling - where I thought it was the quiet before the beautiful storm of blessing. I was a single mom of three, working hard, sacrificing my happiness, my time and everything for everyone around me.

I would have never imagined being homeless or being so stressed about why this was happening to me on a day to day basis. 

I thought if I do my best to do good, then I should get good back.

But when everything happened a year ago - my house burning down - I knew things like that only happened in a utopia. I lost hope - all hope.

The storm didn’t come with fluffy clouds or beautiful rainbows. This storm came with hail the size of basketballs, tsunamis and wind to knock me so far on my butt, I thought I would never get up.

As I sunk to the bottom of the bucket of my life, I would look up and say I’m really never going to see sunshine. 

What hope I had, I poured into my children because I couldn’t let them see the misery we had gone into. I wanted them to be there, but not stay there and all my prayers would be for them and for what they wanted.

As I took apart of the HabitatDetroit project, I had hope for just my children to see the fruition. 

Each time I picked up a hammer, walked the long aisle of the Restore, trudged down streets to my volunteer assignments or waited for long periods for the bus, I repeatedly told myself my children would be safe, my children would be happy, my children would know what home meant.

Yet as I continued to help paint, cut wood, nail down boards, stock shelves, unpack trucks and so on and on… a new realization came… I was helping someone.

I was helping some unknown person who had been in my shoes, or who was going to be in my shoes.I was helping an organization which did more than just build houses, they built hope, when one felt all hope was gone.

Experiencing the #buildup 2014 of HabitatDetroit is not about hard work, sweat, long hours and muscle strain. Somehow you don’t remember that.

Not when you’re doing something that you know will give something to someone like me…


Something that’s more powerful than all the tsunamis and hurricanes in the world. More powerful than anything you can ever imagine. 

And more priceless than all the riches in all the world.

One tiny mustard seed of hope can give a person like that the little bit of strength to bench press the universe.

HabitatDetroit gave me back my hope… HabitatDetroit gave me back my utopia.

For my children, I thank you… For my peace of mind, I thank you and most of all, from my heart, I thank you.

I so hope my words have given others who don’t know about the organization an inspiration to help however they can; either by picking up a hammer, volunteering their time or making monetary contributions.

I thank you all who do help in advance. It means a lot you’ve helped this organization that builds not only houses in the community, but hope in people’s hearts.

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No one ship is exactly the same. Each couple tends to come with their own quirks, their own traditions, their own struggles.

I’ve recently dug up an interesting article that categorizes relationships into 10 different kinds.

  1. Survival relationships 
  2. Validation relationships 
  3. Scripted relationships 
  4. Acceptance relationships
  5. Individuation-Assertion relationships 
  6. Healing relationships 
  7. Experimental relationships 
  8. Transitional relationships
  9. Avoidance relationships
  10. Pastime relationships  

If you’re interested in using these to help you roleplay a relationship that seems in at least some way, realistic, continue reading. 

Survival relationships: 

  • This is made up of people who don’t feel as if they can survive on their own. 
  • They feel as if they have to have someone be anything. In some cases it may literally be a case of survival.
  • Think someone who provides shelter, food, job, money etc. It’s important to note that these two are codependent. 
  • The relationship is often hostile and sometimes abusive. 
  • Feelings of insecurity tend to run rampant! 

Validation relationships: 

  • People in these relationships are those who seek validation of their physical attractiveness, intellect, social status, sexuality, wealth, or some other attribute.  
  • Teenagers and young adults who are looking for a sense of identity form relationships based on sexual validation.
  • The relationship tends to be a little insecure and need constant validation. 
  • “Do you really love me?” 

Scripted relationships: 

  • Seems to be the most perfect of relationships and everyone around them sees it as a great relationship.
  • The partners are the most perfect boyfriend or the most perfect girlfriend.
  • There are often power struggles in this type of relationship.
  • Sexual attraction or involvement if often lacking.
  • The partners are often stuck in routines. 

Acceptance relationships 

  • A trusting, supporting and enjoyable relationship. 
  • A very healthy and happy relationship. 

Individuation-Assertion relationships 

  • Both individuals know what the others wants and needs are.
  • Respect is a key factor in this relationship.
  • Partners are supportive of others aspirations and dreams 
  • They both recognize their individuality. 

NOTE: All types from here on tend to be transient.

Healing relationships:

  • These occur after periods of loss, struggle, depression, stress or mourning.
  • They’re looking for someone to “fix them” 
  • Couples tend to talk about the past and their losses a lot. 
  • Gentleness, support, and comfort  characterize this relationship srather than great passion.

Experimental relationships 

  • These are experimental relationships.

Transitional relationships 

  • This is a relationship that is a cross between the kind of relationships you use to have the kind you want.
  • An “almost but not quite there” 

Avoidance relationships 

  • They’re together but not close.
  • They want to avoid their own deeper feelings. 
  • Don’t want to “get too close” 
  • Self-disclosure is low and mistrust is high. 

Pastime relationships 

  • Just something recreational and for fun and games.
  • Often emphasis is on fun and not deeper feelings.
  • Not one likely to last.
  • One night stands fall under this.

(A link to the article


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“Here’s to strong women. May we know them. May we be them. May we raise them.”
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Which dating app are YOU!?! 
Finish reading What You’re Really Saying With Your Dating App

I didn’t even know about half of these dating sites but when it got to Christian Mingle I just ROFLMBO!

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this is must in life…

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